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Exhaustion has become the unspoken norm for Black women, and not because we want it that way. It’s practically woven into the fabric of our existence, expected of us as if it’s some badge of honor. But let’s call it what it is—toxic. Black women have been overworked, overextended, and overlooked for far too long, and it’s time to unravel why society thinks we should be okay with it.
The “Strong Black Woman” Lie We’re Done Buying Into
Let’s get one thing straight: we’re done with the “Strong Black Woman” trope. This narrative is nothing more than a setup, pushing the idea that we’re meant to endure endless struggle without complaint. From history to modern times, Black women have been labeled as the backbone of everyone’s story but our own, carrying the weight of communities, families, and movements.
But here’s the twist — they want us to believe that showing up for ourselves is weak, and we’re here to flip that. The truth is, we don’t need to be superheroes all the time. Strength doesn’t mean sacrificing your mental, emotional, and physical health to live up to some unrealistic expectation.
Emotional Labor Is Draining Us — And We’re Tired of Pretending It Isn’t
Exhaustion isn’t just about the physical grind. The emotional labor Black women carry daily is beyond heavy. It’s the constant need to be the nurturer, the fixer, the one who always has it together. We’re expected to give endlessly, to everyone, in every space — whether that’s at home, at work, or even in our communities.
Add in navigating the daily microaggressions, systemic racism, and the pressure to outperform just to be seen as “worthy,” and it’s no wonder we’re exhausted. And yet, society still expects us to keep going. But here’s the reality: carrying the world on your shoulders isn’t sustainable, nor should it be expected. It’s time we start prioritizing ourselves — no apologies.
Where Are the Safe Spaces for Black Women to Rest?
Let’s talk about self-care. It’s all the rage, right? But look a little closer, and you’ll see that many of these conversations don’t even have us in mind. Mainstream self-care is often presented as this polished, curated luxury that seems worlds away from our lived experiences. Black women are often left out of the narrative, as if rest and softness aren’t meant for us.
And let’s not ignore the fact that in our own communities, rest is sometimes seen as a privilege, something reserved for those who’ve already “made it.” We’ve been conditioned to believe that we need to outwork everyone else just to get ahead, and somehow, taking a break is seen as a setback. But this mindset has done nothing but exhaust us.
Rest Isn’t a Reward — It’s a Right
Here’s what we’re reclaiming: rest isn’t something you earn after you’ve run yourself ragged. You don’t need to hustle until you can barely breathe just to prove you deserve a moment of peace. That myth is exactly why exhaustion has been normalized for Black women. It’s a lie that keeps us chained to productivity, when what we truly need is rest.
Rest is our birthright. You don’t have to accomplish a million things or check off everyone else’s needs before you get to take care of yourself. You are enough, exactly as you are, and rest is part of honoring yourself, not a privilege that only comes once you’ve reached some unattainable standard.
It’s Time to Reclaim Your Rest and Put Yourself First
Black women, it’s time to unlearn the conditioning that has kept us trapped in cycles of exhaustion. Whether it’s finally learning to say “no,” creating non-negotiable boundaries, or simply taking time to do nothing, we deserve to be unapologetic about prioritizing our own needs.
By rejecting the notion that exhaustion equals success, we take back control of our time, our energy, and our well-being. Living in alignment with rest and softness isn’t weakness; it’s the ultimate act of self-respect. We deserve more than survival mode—we deserve ease. So let’s commit to that, together.
Ready to reclaim the rest that’s rightfully yours? Start your journey with Rewrite Your Story: Your Crown Deserves a Rest — the ultimate self-care journal for Black women who are ready to stop running on empty. This isn’t just a journal, it’s your blueprint to unlearning exhaustion and embracing a life of ease, luxury, and rest. Your mind, body, and spirit deserve nothing less.
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