They Not Like Us!- How the Soft Life Looks Different for Black Women 

What does it really mean to live a soft life? I know you’ve probably seen it all over social media — the bubble baths, the luxurious vacations, the beautiful homes filled with peace and calm. And while all of that is part of the soft life, I want you to know that it’s so much deeper than that, especially for you as a Black woman.

You see, living a soft life isn’t just about external luxuries. For us, it’s about reclaiming our peace in a world that often demands us to be everything for everyone else. It’s about choosing ease in a society that glorifies our struggle. It’s about finding our joy, our balance, and our rest — even when the world expects us to be strong 24/7.

Softness is Power, Not Weakness

If you’ve ever felt like choosing rest makes you weak or that asking for help makes you less capable, sis, I need you to let that go. Softness is not a weakness. In fact, choosing softness in a world that wants to see you hard and unbreakable is one of the most powerful things you can do.

Your soft life isn’t about what the world says it should be. It’s about creating a life that feels good to you. Whether that’s staying in on a Friday night to rest or treating yourself to something luxurious just because, it’s about giving yourself grace and prioritizing your well-being. Your softness is your power, and you get to own that.

Softness Looks Different for You, and That’s Okay

The truth is, your soft life will look different from everyone else’s. For some Black women, a soft life might mean creating space to rest after years of overworking. For others, it’s about finding joy in small moments or saying “no” without apology.

For you, softness might look like

  • Setting boundaries with work and loved ones to protect your peace.
  • Giving yourself permission to not be the strong one all the time.
  • Letting go of relationships that drain you, even if they’re familiar.
  • Carving out time for the things that bring you joy — without guilt.

The beauty of this journey is that you get to define what softness means to you. You get to decide what makes you feel whole, what brings you peace, and what allows you to live with ease. And if that means something different than what you’ve seen or heard, so be it. 

How is your soft life different, yet perfect for you? Tell us about it in the  Sunkissed, a Soft Life Social Network for Black women created by Beauji Brown Girl. Join here for free and connect with other like-minded women who are embracing ease, luxury, and rest on their own terms. Share your journey, exchange tips, and find inspiration to elevate your soft life even further. Don’t wait to create the life you deserve—join Sunkissed today and take your first step toward living a life of softness, joy, and fulfillment.



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